I have a cousin that was born on Friday the 13th.  ‘Twas a cold and dreary night.  The hospital floors were ringing with the dead silence of snow flurries.  Only a few brave souls were willing to face the behemoth blizzard outside.  Tossed into such a cold world, she has…

Grown into an extraordinary, intelligent, strong, and exceedingly capable FBI agent. 

Moral of the story. 

Friday the 13th is only what you want it to be.  So is Sunday the 25th.  Tuesday the 32nd (just making sure you’re reading). Or any other day for that matter.

As my great friend Tupac Shakur said –

“Though life is complicated, only what you make it to be…”

And really, there isn’t a specific origin story to Friday the 13th, except for various tales that have traveled through time down to our current age.  For instance, Friday is said to be the day that Eve offered Adam the “apple” and well…I’m pretty sure we all know how that ended. 

Another one is the crucifixion of Jesus, which is traditionally considered to have taken place on a Friday, hence “Good Friday”.  Lets not forget the most highly recognized betrayer – Judas Iscariot – was supposedly the 13th person to be seated at the Last Supper.

So it seems to be that much of the hoopla surrounding Friday and the number 13 stems from the influence of Christianity on Western society.  But the whole world doesn’t necessarily see it the same. 

In fact, the Chinese understand the word 13 to mean “definitely vibrant”.

Plus, when you really think about it, this notion of Friday the 13th as a day of evil has been handed down to us from centuries ago.  Just like saying “bless you” after someone sneezes.  Because centuries ago, Europeans believed your soul was trying to escape your body when you sneezed…and well…I’m just saying. 

Look, really I’d be lying to you if I said I didn’t believe in fate or magical days.  I’ve been known to read a horoscope or two.  But even if things do happen for a reason, I also believe that we are responsible to lead our lives in a manner that uses those “coincidences” in a positive and meaningful manner.  You can give everyday meaning – positive or negative – if you choose.  Hopefully it’s positive though.

Yes derailments in life will happen. 

The unexpected will expectedly occur.

But realize you are greater than any superstition. 

Be stronger than el ojo.

Persevere through all the day brings.

You see Friday the 13th can be a day full of pain and frustration. Anger and hurt. 

But only if you let it. 

Or Friday the 13th can be just another day. 

Another day to recognize the beauty in the world that is. 

Another day to find love.

Another day to find your meaning of God.

Another day to witness the magic of life.

Another day to barbeque with your family (jalapeño poppers are my favorite).

So about that cousin who was born on Friday the 13th

Her head did happen to grow 3 times bigger than her body during a freak accident last year. 

Just kidding…or am I? (Duhn Duhn Duhn!!!!)