An introvert sits quietly in the corner, shifting his eyes up and down. An extrovert is conversing and laughing with a small group of people on the other side of the room. You walk in. Where do you go? Do you secure your own secluded corner or sit next to the introvert? Do you talk to the extrovert? Or does it depend?
Extroverts and introverts have been a hot topic of discussion for years now, helping us understand the many quirks that make up our personalities; extroverts being the social, outgoing personality and introverts being more content with seclusion. But is defining our personalities as easy as being labeled an introvert or extrovert?
Introverts and Extroverts
Coined by Carl Jung in the early 20th century, many personality traits have been involved in a series of tests like the 16 Personalities Test to determine where we fall. Are you charismatic? Do you like to plan? Do you struggle to make decisions?
- Enjoy solitude
- Small group of friends
- Overwhelmed in crowds or socializing
- Notice small details
- Look at the bigger picture
- Center of attention, attention seeking
- Feels anxiety with too much alone time
- Enjoys group work
- Action oriented
These are the quirks of our personality associated with what makes up an introvert and extrovert.
With this classification into the binary bubbles that are introverts and extroverts, people are characterizing two extremes of personality when, in actuality, most of us land somewhere in the middle.
Meet the Ambiverts
The forgotten type, ambiverts lie somewhere in the middle with some traits of both introverts and extroverts. Easily relating to both spectrums, some days you might want to go out and party with friends but then you might want some downtime for yourself. Maybe you want to be invited but instead don’t really want to go anywhere at all. It really depends on how you’re feeling and what you want. It ranges from Netflix nights alone, being the life of the party or adjusting your personality based on the people around you. Find out where you lie on Loner Wolf.
An Intricate Web of Traits
These traits that seemingly go along with extroverts or introverts don’t mean you have to only be an extrovert to be outgoing. Being introvert, extrovert or ambivert is more than a trait that makes up who we are, it’s how we recharge with daily activities and the comfort we feel. Introverts recharge more with solitude and intimate settings while extroverts energize from social gatherings and being the center of attention. Introverts can be outgoing. Extroverts can be shy.
There’s a lot of myths of what exactly extroverts and introverts can and cannot be through numerous tests. These tests, although fun, aren’t an excuse for you to ignore your needs. If you as an extrovert want some time at home, don’t think that being labeled as such means you aren’t allowed to do so. Being an introvert doesn’t mean you absolutely have to stay in all the time. This intricate web of traits applies to us all at some level. We can be one extreme, the other or in between.
As with most of the world, people love labels to help understand, explain and make it seem easier to know how or why we act the way we do. People, though, are much more complex than just black and white. There is no good character or bad character. We have so many different traits that make up who we are. Whether it is an introverted person, an awkward extrovert or ambivert who can’t decide, go and paint the world with all your personality traits!